Do you use “cry it out?”
I will never ask you to leave your child alone to cry-it-out. While the CIO method can be efficient, I prefer more gentle methods that, with consistency, are more effective. While some crying is to be expected my goal is to have as little crying as possible. I encourage parents to be loving and responsive but to allow the child the room to learn this vital life skill of putting themselves to sleep. The parent responds and stays with their child and offers physical and verbal reassurance without putting the child to sleep. This supports the development of a secure attachment between parent and child.
How do I know if Gentle Sleep Coaching is right for our family?
My sleep plans are designed to help children ages 4 months to 6 years of age. If any of these sound familiar, I can help!
- Are you exhausted and looking for a gentle solution to help your child sleep better?
- Does your child require lots of feeding, patting, or rocking to fall asleep?
- Does your child wake frequently at night and/or too early in the morning?
- Does your child struggle with naps and/or take short naps?
- Does your toddler protest bedtime and/or leave his or her room multiple times at night either asking you to lie down with them OR end up in your bed?
What if I have twins?
Sleep coaching twins is absolutely possible. Given twins are at higher risk of being born premature, it’s important to take into account the adjusted age of twins before sleep coaching to determine readiness. The adjusted age reflects the difference between a baby’s chronological age, based on their birth date, and the baby’s due date.
Sleep coaching twins may also take a little extra patience and time. In instances where one twin is sleeping well and the other is not, and there is a shared room involved, I will usually ask the parents to separate the twins at night for coaching. Once both twins are sleeping well again, you can return them to their shared room.
How can you help if my previously good sleeper has regressed?
I can help! Children who previously slept well may experience a sleep regression for various reasons. Reaching developmental milestones such a rolling over or walking, illness, and travel are a few events that may impact sleep. If your child was previously sleeping well and has suddenly regressed in their sleep, I can help you get them back on track.
We co-sleep, can I really sleep train?
Yes! Sleep is a learned skill, regardless of whether your child is sleeping in your bed or in her crib. Even though your child is sharing your bed, you can still teach them to fall asleep somewhat independently, without compromising your desire to co-sleep.
For families who have co-slept for a period of time and are looking to transition their child to their own sleep space, I can help.
I plan to breastfeed for a long time, how does this fit in?
Whether you are nursing or bottle feeding, you do not need to night wean to improve your baby’s sleep. Many families decide to feed at night for various reasons, including; maintenance of milk supply, to preserve bonding time with their baby, and/or because the baby physiologically demands it. I respect your long-term breastfeeding goals and will always incorporate them into your sleep plan.
Can you sleep train my 4 month old?
Babies this age are delicate and still need some assistance from you to get the sleep they need. Your baby is undergoing tremendous growth and development during this time period. Many babies 4-5 months old will physiologically demand to be fed more and/or may wake and fuss more often that usual.
If you are familiar with the term “sleep regression” you may often hear that term associated with this period of a baby’s development. Babies who previously slept well may regress from their usual sleep patterns.Those babies who have struggled with sleep from the birth may continue to struggle. In the sleep world, we often refer to this period as a “sleep progression”, given the huge development leaps babies are undergoing.This is the stage when many babies learn to roll and become increasingly aware of their environment.It’s an exciting time for babies and parents but can be challenging if sleep starts to unravel.
Together we will determine if your baby is ready for sleep coaching.I will work with you to create a gentle sleep plan that gradually and lovingly teaches your baby to sleep better. If we determine your baby is not quite ready for sleep coaching, I am available to discuss some gentle “sleep shaping” strategies for you to implement to lay the foundation for successful sleep coaching at a later date.